May 31, 2023

After working with clients for many years, I have come to the realization that we are notoriously bad eyewitnesses to our own experiences.

We are great at telling stories about our experiences, our past, and our traumas, but unfortunately they aren't always true.

This can hinder our transformation because without a...

May 24, 2023

Sometimes we have to do tasks that we just don't like because they are no fun, such as having to scrub the inside of a smelly old garbage can, or doing yard work at three in the afternoon on a hot summer's day.

There are other tasks where the reason we avoid doing them is less clear. Hidden behind our reluctance is the...

May 17, 2023

Just because we know what to do, how to do it, and have everything we need to take action, it doesn't mean we actually take action.

For me, this is one of the most frustrating places to be because it is clear that I am set up for success AND I am the one getting in my own way.

The tricky part of this situation is...

May 10, 2023

As humans, we are great at complaining!

And I don't mean that as a put-down because there is a sound evolutionary reason why we excel at complaining. A complaint is a recognition of something that is bad, painful, or distasteful.

This is the subconscious mind's way of keeping us safe. When we point out what is negative,...

May 3, 2023

It is so common to apologize when we get emotional in front of others.

You may feel like you are overreacting, or being extra, or that you are burdening the people around you.

Awareness of how our emotions can impact others is a good thing, BUT it is also important that we don't just bottle up or suppress strong...